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Dealing with a miscarriage, whether it is your first, second, third, etc.. is extremely physically, emotionally, and mentally painful. When a miscarriage occurs, it is important to treat the miscarriage as you would in any situation of a painful loss and consider beginning depression help in Calgary to support you or your loved one with grief and loss counselling.

Miscarriage Depression Help in Calgary insight #1: Be Careful to not Isolate from the World.

Miscarriages are very difficult to go through, especially when you are super excited to begin to process of preparing and developing within your body a little one to come into this world. It can be very easy to isolate and want to be completely alone, however, this is not the time to ostracize yourself from the world. Rather this is a time to work this loss out together.

For the father of this lost child, remember your partner will not want advice or to “be fixed.” Instead, consider just being present for your partner physically, emotionally, and mentally and just be present and do your best to hold space and be there through what may be a heightened season of emotion…. In other words, she may just want space to be heard and held. 

For the mother of this lost child, we at New Life Counselling in no way want to even consider we know what you are truly going through. However, it is important to communicate with your partner openly and honestly with each other about your thoughts, feelings, and what you are going through as best as possible. Lean into each other for support and allow yourself to navigate and co-regulate your grief together as a couple.

Miscarriage Depression Help in Calgary insight #2: Consider Counselling to support your grief and loss.

Dealing with a miscarriage, whether it is your first, second, third, etc.. is extremely physically, emotionally, and mentally painful. When a miscarriage occurs, it is important to treat the miscarriage as you would in any situation of a painful loss and consider beginning depression help in Calgary to support you or your loved one with grief and loss counselling.

Miscarriage at New Life Counselling is treated as a very personal close death in the family and so our therapists are here to create space and support you in this time of healing through grief and loss.

Miscarriage Depression Help in Calgary Insight #3: Be Empathetic and not Sympathetic

It can be really easy to be the outside person looking in and start trying to fix yourself or others by using sympathetic statements such as…“Well, at least the child has gone to a better place.”

Rather than trying to fix a situation and end up unintentionally hurting yourself or a loved one; just create a healthy space of compassion (not sympathy) and provide a place of empathy and caring towards yourself and others. In other words, look to the heart first and through their eyes (or yourself) and just be there for them or yourself and provide a place of caring that doesn’t require you to say anything at all. 

Healing mentally and emotionally from a miscarriage is possible, and it’s essential to give yourself the time and space to navigate through the process. If you or a loved one is dealing with a tremendous amount of loss due to having a miscarriage it might be time to seek out depression help in Calgary and contact a qualified counselling therapist, clinical counsellor, or psychotherapist and begin to gently re-learn to walk in New Life.