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When I was younger…Okay, when I was really really younger; I remember there was a new found interest in 3-D movies. Now the 3-D movies of yesterday were totally different than what is mostly shown in the theatres today. For one thing, you would often see them, while standing up, at a county fair or at Stampede before things like Marriage counselling Calgary was really just being accepted as something you do if your marriage was finding itself in challenging circumstances. Secondly, these 3-d movies, and/or shorts were super intense and it actually felt like you could touch the item coming towards you. Unlike today, were the image just looks like it’s gently in front of you, however far enough away to not scare you…Boring.

Today we often feel like we’re in relationships that are in 3-D, and that can be really cool and exciting or it can be super intense and scary…Like the Python I remember the snake handler on the giant movie screen coming towards me and holding the snake head right in front of me.

Rather than focusing on negative attributes a relationship can demonstrate, I though I’d take a positive spin on the topic of how to recognize the 3 D’s of Positive and Safe People so when they pop up in front of our lives we can enjoy the positive 3-D’s of a positive and safe Relationship.

1. They Develop

Positive and Safe People love to give space and room to develop others and support people, in order for them to reach their highest potential. Now doing this this can be risky to the developer, especially if the recipient one day acts ungrateful (Hmmm, kind of like raising kids somedays?) however, the more a developer develops individuals in a relationship the more in depth the relationship has the potential to become a positive and healthy relationship. And maybe one day the person being developed can become the developer.

2. They are Devoted.

Positive and Safe People are devoted to intentionally building and cultivating healthy and whole relationships. Being devoted to a relationship means not throwing the baby out with the bathwater. In other words, it’s not a matter of if, but when a relationship will enter stormy seasons. The Devoted individual will not give up on the relationship and recognize that we are human and in the blink of an eye have challenges that sometimes need what is known as unconditional love to fully accept someone; flaws and all.

3. They are Discerning.

Positive and Safe People have an ability to recognize negative or positive circumstances in relationships and deal with the situation accordingly. In a positive relational moment this individual can recognize opportunities to grow and cultivate deeper and more valuable/intimate moments that take a relationship to another level of connection.  At the flip side of the coin, when a negative moment in a relationship occurs, this person can healthily care enough to healthily confront a situation and if the individual is at fault in any way, they take responsibility for there actions and make amends accordingly. Again, they are not afraid to confront a situation, however, are not trying to be a jerk, there just trying to bring repair to a situation…if possible.

Positive and Safe 3-D people are great to have as friends, leaders and lovers. However, if you are in a relationship that might not meet some of these safe characteristics, it might be time to consider seeking out a qualified Psychotherapist/Clinical Counsellor and begin to learn how to walk in positive and safe relationships…and New Life.